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Today is August 3rd, 2020. My name is Ann Shi, and I'm with the Houston Asian American Archive. Today with us is Zelda Jones, sorry, Zelda Faith Jones? You can say Zelda Jones.

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It’s fine. Thank you. Thank you for yeah, letting us take your oral history. Thanks for having me. Yeah, to start, can you tell us where and when were you, were you born? Yeah, I was born in 1984, here, basically, in

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Houston. My mom's from the Philippines. So that's my connection. I see. And what's your dad's ethnic origin? He's from— not here, but he's from Missouri.

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So he's white American and European, I guess. And can you describe the neighborhood you grew up in? It's very suburbs. Like, kind of like the American dream, you know.

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Yeah, I mean, just like a bunch of little homes that kind of look the same, away from this city. Quiet. Yeah. What is your earliest memory?

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Oh, that's hard. Let me think. Um, my memory is very bad. You know, and I think, I think most

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of it is just from like depression because that's like a classic symptom is, your memories are pretty bad. I think like when you experience a lot of trauma, your brain just kind of blots things out. So, you know, my memories are very vague, but I do have vague memories of

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just kind of being in the house, hanging out with my parents. I mean, some good memories, or, you know, like, because obviously, my parents were much younger back then. And the place, the area wasn't as developed back then.

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Actually, that's what changed. Like the neighborhood's still there, but like when I was little, it was like the neighborhood. And then like farms, or just empty land, and now it's like completely packed with everything.

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So back then we could actually go on walks, or bicycling and stuff like out on the streets where there aren't any like buildings or anything. So I remember like my dad used to jog a lot. And we all used to bike and stuff.

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So I guess that's like my earliest childhood memories. That and I had a friend who lived across the street and she was like my first best friend, you know, like we always wanted to play every single day. So I remember her.

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Yeah, and anything, anything earlier than that, it's really fuzzy. So. So what is the ethnic mix, like in that neighborhood? Well, that also changed, because I think, I think my parents liked it when it was people like well,

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I say people like them, but like, my mom is not white, but she acts like she is, you know. So once we got more people of color in the neighborhood, they didn't like it anymore.

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And they wanted to move out. And eventually they did. And it's kind of funny because the place where they are now is full of like, Hispanics. I'm like, well, can't get away from it."

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Yeah, yeah, like I vaguely remember that I actually have, I have a cousin who's a little older than me. And she spent a summer with us once when I was little and, and we actually like very recently as

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adults started talking about that stuff. And it was very enlightening. Because when she was here, like the, the agreement was that because she's from

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Missouri too, from my dad's side of the family, and she hadn't really traveled much, I guess. And so the agreement was if they let her basically stay-stay down here with us for a summer kind of like a vacation, then-then whenever

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they needed it, she would like babysit me when my parents were working. And she said that my mom specifically told her that I was not allowed to play with the black or the Hispanic kids in the neighborhood. Like yeah.

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So you didn't have any Hispanic or black friends back then? Well, I kind of did, because I lived there, you know. And the nice thing about back then, you know, was, you know, like, I had my bicycle.

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So I would spend all day just kind of biking around and doing whatever; my parents didn't follow me around. You know, they just expected me to be home at a certain time. So I hung out a little

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bit with a couple of Hispanic kids 'cause who else was I gonna hang out with? Actually, we had some black papers, but they were half Filipino. So that made it okay. 'cause they were Filipino, you

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know? So, yeah. So did you make any Filipino friends back then? I'm kind of. So the, the church that I grew up in

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was actually in the medical center. And there's a lot of Filipinos in the medical center. So I was always part of like a Filipino community. My mom was a nurse.

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So she was part of that. So like I was surrounded by a lot of Filipinos, but actually, Filipino kids, not so much. Like I have one Filipino friend that I got really close to, you know, that

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we’re still friends today, which is pretty cool. Like, like even she like, she was born in the Philippines, and then came when she was like five, and we just bonded. But then, the other Filipino

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kids, I don't know what happened. They just kind of— maybe they were a little bit more intuitive than I was at the time because I don't think they were quite into the church thing so much, you know, none

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of them were really, I was. I just kind of ate it up. I-I like absorbed everything that came from what I grew up in, like, from my parents and from my church family, like I was super into it.

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Like, I didn't really start having my own thoughts till I was like in my 20s. So, you know, and they kind of- they raise you to basically judge people who aren't who don't do that. So anybody who kind of like doesn't

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go to church all the time, or they like, do things you're not supposed to do, like if they go drinking or clubbing or something like ooh, you know, that's not good, don't hang out with them, you know. So it took me a long time to sort of like crawl out of that uh.

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So, you know. What denomination were you? Baptist. Yeah, very conservative, very conservative. Like they don't even, like for communion

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they do juice. Like they don't even allow alcohol like on the property. And I remember there's this- there was one time there's this big drama because apparently, some teenage, some of the teenage boys they like brought beer into the church fridge or something, and it was like this

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huge ordeal like, "Oh my god, I can't believe they did that," you know? But it's funny because even the kids that I grew up with, like the ones who are still pretty religious, like, like we all wound up

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drinking later and not like alcoholics, just like it's just another drink that you enjoy. You know, it's-it's just kind of funny. Like, it's like, "Why are we so strict about that?" Like.

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Such interesting memories. It's pretty, pretty weird. How did you end up connected to Houston? I've kind of been here.

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So here's the thing is like, you know, technically, I grew up in Katy, in the suburbs. But since my parents met, like their circle was in Houston, my life was always in Houston.

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So even like, even as a little child, everything I did was here. I was homeschooled, but and a bunch of the other kids were, so sometimes we'd like get together and like do school together. And that was all in Houston, you know, and if I wanted to hang out with my friends or

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have a sleep over, that was in Houston. Whenever my parents had work, I was in Houston. Church was in Houston, my music classes were in Houston.

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So like, I actually have very little real connections to Katy, other than I just slept there a lot because that's, you know, that's where I lived. Because I didn't even go to school in

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Katy until high school. And even then, I was only like three years old, and that was it. So, yeah, it's funny because the people who know that I'm like, quote unquote from Katy or whatever,

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like randomly they'll be like, "Oh, hey, I'm going to Katy tonight. Where should I hang out?" And I'd be like, "I don't know because when I hang out, I leave Katy. I don't hang out in Katy.

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Don't ask me, Chili's, I don't know." Nowadays there's a lot of restaurants over there. Yeah, but it's all the same stuff. Here's the thing about suburbia that those like those

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people love it for that reason. But those are the reasons why I hate it. They're all the same. The houses look the same. The neighborhoods look the same.

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It's all the same restaurants like Chili's, Chatters , Olive Garden and then all of fast food stuff, Walmart, Target, like they're all the same. And even, like, if you go to a different city or a different state, you know, like

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maybe the grocery stores are different, but even then, a lot of the grocery stores are actually owned by the same company. You know, so like in Chicago, I forgot what it's called, but it's totally Randall’s. They just don't call it that.

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But it even looks the same. You know, but like suburbs like, the whole point of the suburbs is that I guess it's predictable, you know, and then if you ever, like heaven forbid, if you have to relocate for work or

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something, there's not really a change, but I hate that. It's so on original. It's so boring. It's so superficial. And there's no history.

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There's nothing interesting. It's just so boring to me. You know, like I've always loved the city because it's interesting, you know, there's stories and stuff. Then, I mean, no offense people who like suburbs, you

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know, like, they exist for a reason. And they're very popular, just not for me. So I'm kind of glad that like, I always was tied to this city. And you know, so like the first like, the first time I actually had an

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apartment, like my apartment that I moved into in Houston. Like, I really feel like, “Oh, I'm finally home.” Because my whole life I've been commuting because it's like I said, like, around where I live, there's nothing better

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if I wanted to do anything or see anyone I had to leave and not just leave but like drive for 45 minutes. It's such a hassle and it's very, like life-consuming, you know? It’s just very— takes time, takes

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gas money, you know, takes energy. Like I hate commuting. And that's been my whole life.

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So when I finally like, moved here, I was like, “oh, I've made it.” And now I'm back in Katy because a lot of stuff has happened but, you know, eventually I’ll wind up back here. Were there any, like, grocery store of like Asian

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heritage in the area that you or your family member— There is now, but it's very new, because before, you know, it's like, if you wanted anything authentic, you'd had to go to Chinatown, literally, you know, but now

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there's basically a new Chinatown or Asian town, Katy Asian Town, I think. I think it's got a name I don't remember, but it's really close to us.

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It's cool. But it's like it's all very, like new and shiny. And it's not the same. You know, actual Chinatown. I don't know. I mean, I also just haven't been there that much.

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And now it's like, we don't really go places that much now, for obvious reasons. So, you know, whatever exploring I would have done, is not happening.

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But I mean, there's-there's like an H-Mart and stuff, which is nice. Yeah, it's convenient. But um, that's very recent though. Yeah. And it's just because Katy is

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basically become its own city, you know, it’s very big. So there's I guess there's finally like a big enough like reason to do that because we also because we also have a growing medical center in Katy as well, so it's getting crazy.

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Yeah. And what kind of values your parents instilled with you in your upbringing besides Christian values? Oh. Specific to like your mom's side, Filipino heritage.

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Oh, work hard. Just work hard and be independent because the other thing too is like my mom. I think she was the first one who actually like went to college and left, you know, and, and she's

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actually supported a lot of family members since then to do the same thing either go to college or leave or both, but that was like a new thing, you know? Because, you know, like women, traditionally, like, "Oh, you just make babies and clean the house," you know, it's

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like, very different for them to like, be career people, you know? Yeah. And, and, you know, she obviously had to work very hard to get here. And she kind of had to, like, make her own way and, you know, like, fight

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for it sometimes. And I don't know, it's weird talking about my parents values, because, like, hopefully I'm picking up the good ones. But then when I look back and just see how they are as people, I'm like, "Man, y'all are

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hypocrites." Like, I don't know. I think growing up in general is just very weird because, like the parent-child relationship really is kind of like a like you see your parents as deities.

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They're perfect. And they're awesome and everything, and you know, and then you grow up and you realize, like, oh, they're just another human, which means they're just as messed up as everyone else. You know, it's very strange to see, like to

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start to understand, you know. You know, because like, for example, like my parents, like, like as a child, like, "Oh, you better be polite.” You know, if you ever talk back or say something rude, it's like, “I’ll smacking you in the face," but it's like, my mom is so rude

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all the time. And I'm like, "How did you teach me this when you're the rudest person I know, you know?" So weird. I think that's another thing too. It's like, they see children, the way– the way people view children is

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obviously different in different cultures. But also I think it's changed over time. You know, because I-I think the more modern view, and something that I'm a little bit more in line with, is like there's still

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people. They're just not grown yet. You know what I mean? And they have a lot. Like, they need a lot of guidance, you know, but they're not like they're not pets, they're not things, you know.

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And something that I see a lot with, like older generations is, we really are kind of treated like objects, you know, because as soon as we malfunction, you just hit them, you know, and I'm like, that's not like I

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wouldn't even do that to an animal, that's not right. You know, but that's just when your whole culture is like that and you don't really have much resources to like, enlighten you like you can't blame them

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too much. Because again, like me and all of my friends, that was our reality. If we did something that wasn't okay, regardless of the actual ethics and morals like we were going to get beaten, you know, we like that's just what it was.

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And some of us, you know, some of them are continuing that same path and then others like me are like, "Yeah, no, I'm not gonna do that anymore." But no, working hard for sure. Yeah, I don't know what else because, because here's the thing,

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with religious people, there are people who practice a religion and like, that's a thing that they do they practice religion, but unless you bring it up, it's not really a thing. You know? Like some people you

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wouldn't even necessarily know that they were religious, depending on what your relationship is like you have a work relationship, you'll probably never talk about it, right? And there's other people, like my parents, who, their religion is everything.

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They see everything through that lens, including work life, personal life, public life, everything has to be like, go through that filter and be approved. So even if like, so, like, their vision for me was if I became a famous musician,

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the whole point of it was for the religion. Like, like, "Oh, you want to become famous so that you can like glorify Jesus more and be like, use that to preach” or whatever, you know, like no matter what you do,

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you know, if you become a great surgeon, all that is to somehow promote Jesus, you know, and that's my parents. That's the kind of religion that they practice. It's so much.

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It's so much and that never clicked with me like I tried because like I said, through my whole childhood and when I was still young, like I was really into it. And that was like a lot, like a

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really big personal battle it was, was just like, never quite falling in line with literally everything that I was raised to do and to be. I just never quite, quite got it, you know.

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And of course later on, as I like, figured myself out, I'm like, oh, clearly, like, obviously, that wasn't for me because literally who you are and what you are, are completely, like, contrary to all that stuff, which is, I guess it's unfortunate,

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but whatever. You know, like, like, they are very anti-LGBT. Like, it's like “God made a man and a woman to be together and that’s how it should be.” You know, that's it. That's it. And I am not straight in any way.

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And that's not something that "Oh, I thought it was cool. And I decided to do it” because that's what they tell you. That's what they think is like, "Oh, it's a choice. You just decide to do it.

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And it's because like, you let Satan influence you. You hung out with the wrong people or something." You know, I'm like, "No. I always liked women, and that wasn't a choice that I made,” because especially

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back then, why would anybody want that when you know that you're gonna suffer for it? Like, and I'm not gay, I'm pansexual. So I'm, like, open to everything.

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Like I'm attracted to everything. So that's probably another topic that we'll get into later. Because I am also compatible with men. So people just see me with men, and they assume that I'm straight.

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And a lot of times, I kind of let that be my safety shield. You know, I just won't say anything. You know. So, you know, my parents

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will never know that I'm not straight unless I like marry a woman or something, you know. But you ask literally any gay person who grew up in a family like that, if it was a choice, they would have decided to be straight, because their life is a living hell trying to just survive

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their own family. You know, or the disapproval of their parents, or even the conversion therapy that a lot of them are forced into, you know. Nobody chose to be gay, nobody, or to be anything, nobody wants to be anything that

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kind of alienates them and ostracizes them from their own family and community, you know. And that's, I feel very, very lucky because for me, I was so late, like I was so behind in my own process, you know, that by the time I kind of came to terms with everything, I was

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kind of my own separate adult anyway, so there wasn't much drama. You know, I kind of just, I had stopped going to church already, and there wasn't, there was hardly any confrontation.

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So I got really lucky because a lot of people who have the same history as mine, they have a lot of horror stories from the church of all places, you know, and they have very, very, like,

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bad sentiments towards the church because of that. And me, I'm just disappointed. You know, because when I reached that point where I kind of realized, "Oh, this is how things are." Since I grew up in a church, and I

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understood everything about their beliefs, I understood that like, "Oh, even though I'm okay with y'all being like that, like if religion is for you, that's great,” you know, do that, “but I know that you're not

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okay with me being me." I already know that, and that's why I didn't go back. Because then they ask you all these personal questions, you know, and it's like, well, if you lie, that's not okay, 'cause you're lying. And if you're honest, it's not okay because it's not what you're supposed to be,

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you know, so it's like a lose-lose situation. So I just kind of like I'm not around anymore. Yeah, at what age is that, when you start to realize more about yourself and leaving church?

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It was in my 20s, maybe like, mid to late 20s Yeah, it was a very slow process. I feel like such a late bloomer. Cuz, you know, like my one Filipino friend that we've been,

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you know, friends since we were tiny, whenever we would talk about you know those times, back when we were still in church, like I just feel like I feel like she was so much more awake the whole time, and I was just kind of like

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obliviously floating around, you know, 'cause I think because I always want to, like fit in with the people I'm with and I always would rather be on people's good side. You know, so I just was a

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chameleon, even though I didn't know it, you know, so I was busy just like soaking up all the church stuff or whatever and being like them, and she was not about that, you know, and, and even back then as a child, she could tell when people were lying.

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She could tell where people-when people were prejudice or racist, you know, like, it blew my mind because again, since I was so busy being part of it and just looking at all the pretty stuff, I would have never guessed that racism would even exist in

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that church, but it's everywhere. Actually, a few weeks or a few months ago, like I've, like, never talk to those people anymore, but you know, somewhere, like along the way, like, some of us kind of slowly got sucked

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into Facebook, you know, and to me, that's like a very whatever thing, you know, like Facebook is just like, Facebook basically, is my address book. You know, it's more convenient, because, because I could

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save somebody's number, and then I won't know that they changed it. So, you know, it's just more convenient. And so I have some of those people on Facebook and, you know, but it's weird because Facebook always shows me

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my old pastor stuff when it's like something terrible. Like out of all the things that he's posted, why is this the one I saw. And one of them was, um, and he, I really do think he's a really nice person.

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You know, he really is like, and, and he has, you know, back then, he had helped me through a lot of tough times in my life, you know, so I'm not like, gonna paint him as this evil, or whatever, you know, he's a very nice person. But he, um, I think this was earlier in

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the pandemic he posted a joke like she-he posted like this "Made in China" joke or whatever, and it was about the virus, you know, and I was and it was also right around that time where people were

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talking about how Asian people have been getting like literally like beat up just for being Asian because some stupid, ignorant racists decided that was

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you know, like productive and beat up an Asian. And then the other thing too is like, "Oh, it came from China," but it's like, half of these people aren't even Chinese, they're just Asian, you know, which is, that's another form of racism, you know,

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where it's like, you don't even give a shit where they're actually from, sorry. You know, you don't even care where they're from, you just you just need an outlet for the stupid crap that you have in your head. You know?

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I was just like, "This is not the time for that kind of," you know, and we got into this really ugly debate. And and he was just weird because I also I hadn't talked to him in years.

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Because I didn’t have a real reason to, you know, and I hated that that was like our first interaction in like, such a long time, but I just could not look at that and just like, let it flow by because I was like, "This is not the

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person that I remember you to be like, I'm just hoping that this was a mistake," and I embedded in that email. And he was really defensive at first, but I was like, like "How many, like how many Chinese people do you think are gonna laugh at this joke?

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Do you really think that's okay for a person in your position to like just say stuff like that when you're supposed to be like, the good shepherd of your flock, you know, and provide, like, provide a

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space of safety, you know, for everybody, and you're gonna say stupid stuff like that." And-and you know, he's upset at first, and then later, like, a little bit later on, he messaged me again,

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and he apologized. But it was just it was so weird. It was so weird, and I don't know. And I've talked to some people about it. And I'm like, you know, I think it was a mistake.

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And people are like, "Oh, no, he's totally racist." And I'm like, "Yeah, but you don't know." I don't really know because also I haven't been there for ages. So I really, I don't know, because also, we never really talked about that

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when I was there because I was busy just being a part of it and assuming that everything was awesome and pretty and nice, you know? So hopefully, I just hope that that was like an honest mistake. You know?

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Um… Do you think in normal times, that people would find that joke he made, he said, still racist, as bad as it is now? I mean, like, it's a racist joke, no matter what, you know, but again, like

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I mean, it's, it's not like being a person of color does not make you completely immune to that stuff. And it doesn't automatically put you on one side or the other, you know, because like if you're a person of color, but you just grew up in a community of white people, you're

00:28:54.450 - 00:29:08.250

kind of a part of that and unless you're like, an independent enough thinker to like react to it in a certain way like me, you know, because it's like, technically like, I'm not white. Like I could be, I guess like if I tried, you know, like, I, like I got the

00:29:08.250 - 00:29:26.020

name, I can stay out of the sun. Like I can, if I wanted to, I could pass this white but like, I'm not. White means not half anything, you know. But the other

00:29:26.140 - 00:29:39.750

interesting thing about growing up in that church was trying to fit in, really was like trying to be white, because the majority of my friends were white, and I was just like, we always did things their way.

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And again, talking to my friend, my Filipino friend, later as adults and hearing her perspective on things. I'm like, "Wow, we really were outsiders the whole time." And even though we both were always like, we were included in like the sleep overs and the

00:29:55.920 - 00:30:09.700

summer camps and all this stuff, you know, like we really were outsiders because like whenever we weren't around or like, like me, living in the suburbs, it was a little harder for me to be there for every single thing, so sometimes

00:30:09.700 - 00:30:24.680

my parents would be like, "No, I don’t want to drive you over there." Like would anybody picked me up from Katy, no, you know, or if I missed out on something like, it wouldn't be that noticeable. You know, I just I didn't feel as missed, as, you know, like, I didn't feel as

00:30:24.790 - 00:30:39.570

indispensable as, like, the core people were, you know, it's like, I feel like those certain people, if any one of them couldn't make it, like, it would be a big deal, and they would like rearrange things, but if one of us

00:30:39.570 - 00:30:54.680

couldn't make it, they'd be like, "Oh, that's too bad," you know? And that's something— stuff like that, and I guess it's the kind of thing that you kind of call like micro-aggression, you know, whether it's racism or something else, you know, it's it really is like micro because it's like one

00:30:54.770 - 00:31:06.710

thing by itself. It's such a small thing. You'll probably forget about it, but like, over time, it's like cumulative. You know, and it's like, there were times, sometimes where I just be like, "Why do I feel sad and gross?" But I couldn't

00:31:07.510 - 00:31:21.730

process the idea of my friends being like that, you know, so I just kind of, like, you know, I just brush it off. You know, and I didn't process any of that until way later. And if, and especially not until I

00:31:21.780 - 00:31:35.070

heard somebody else talk about it, then I was like, "Oh, that makes sense. Man, that sucks." You know, that really sucks. Because also those people also have way more money than we did.

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And as part of it, so it's like, is it racism or is it just classism? Because it's like, you know, the whole like, "Oh, they can afford to do all this stuff and we can’t." Nobody cares.

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You know, because there are a couple families, they still do that to this day, like, like, different families would go on this big vacation together, and they would like go out somewhere on like this big trip. It'll be amazing.

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Like, we were never part of that. You know, like, it's like, yeah, I kind of feel like you'll never fully be there unless you're white and have like your income is above a certain point, like you just will never

00:32:16.690 - 00:32:26.840

quite be one of them. You know, and conveniently, like, they would never have to say anything because they didn't have to do anything to exclude us. They just did stuff that we couldn't.

00:32:28.040 - 00:32:41.030

And they were something that we weren't. And were never going to be. So, you know, I was like, a lot to process after the fact and again, I'm really so glad that it happened that way and not like with like all trauma,

00:32:42.380 - 00:32:57.880

you know, happening in the moment. So, yeah, it's very weird. It's like they let me pretend to be white, as long as I was down to do that, and then as soon as I like, was like, "Yeah, I think I'd rather be myself," and it just kind of

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like faded way, you know? So, yeah. So what was like the kind of wake-up moment for you? Or there's just like one or a few incidents

00:33:14.500 - 00:33:30.430

that might have impacted you to think otherwise or this one person? Um, I don't think there really was one, you know, like it was just like several things over the course of several years, you know?

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Yeah, like, like when I first started understanding myself like sexually, at first— because again, like earlier in life, like I didn't even have the vocabulary, so it's not

00:33:51.180 - 00:34:02.420

even like you tell me something and I disagree. I literally do not have like the words or the concepts to describe like what I was, you know, but as soon as I did learn the vocabulary it just all made sense

00:34:02.480 - 00:34:14.650

like, "Oh, that's what I am." Because at first, at first I thought I was bisexual, you know, which I guess technically that's part of it. But, you know, I thought, I just thought, "Okay, I'm bisexual." That's cool.

00:34:14.680 - 00:34:31.920

That makes sense. But again, like, that's simpler. Once I learned later on, I learned about what pansexual was, and I was like, “that's me.” You know, but honestly, like, in conversation,

00:34:32.230 - 00:34:46.300

like, unless we're in a setting like this, I still say bi just because that still is kind of hard for people to… exactly. And then they, you have to, like, just let them say all the dumb stuff

00:34:46.390 - 00:35:04.630

they're gonna say, you know, “you get twice as many choices” or they just like assume that you're also poly, which is not true. Like, you know, like, that's already a thing to deal with. And I feel like if I said pansexual, first of all, I would have to sit down and

00:35:04.630 - 00:35:13.810

explain what in the world that was. And then I wouldn't have to deal with all of their reactions to what that is. And I just, in a normal day to day conversation, I don't have the energy for it.

00:35:15.110 - 00:35:29.000

You know, but um, because like when I was growing up, I always appreciated women, and I just label I just labeled everything through that lens. That-that conservative Southern Baptist Christian lens like,

00:35:29.230 - 00:35:42.830

oh, that just means that I'm not insecure, and I'm okay with another lady being pretty and whatever, but it's like my first crush was a girl. Very much so you know, and it's like, my first sexual

00:35:42.830 - 00:35:54.790

experiences were with girls, and it was not because I wasn't just experimenting, and it wasn't because I was like, confused. Nobody forced me like I was.

00:35:55.810 - 00:36:06.490

I was, that very much me, you know, and I kind of just like, brush those under the rug because those did not have a place in my Christian life. You know that then later on I was like, “That all makes sense.

00:36:07.330 - 00:36:23.660

I just like people,” you know. And, and the whole like Christian thing, I would say maybe like one year was kind of like the big last turning point because, it's

00:36:26.920 - 00:36:42.200

funny because even though I started out Christian and ended on the other side, I never-I never had Christian partners. I guess because, I just deep down I'm just not attracted to

00:36:42.200 - 00:36:56.410

that kind of person. But the last like year that I was like trying, you know, like my last big push to try to be Christian, I finally did date a Christian. And that was like the shortest relationship I ever had.

00:36:57.520 - 00:37:12.200

Nothing bad happened. He's great. Like, we're still friends actually. But he also happened to be totally different from all my previous partners, like personality wise.

00:37:12.200 - 00:37:23.110

So even like, if you take the Christian part out, I don't think we would have been the best match just because of our personalities. You know, we just were attracted to each other at the time.

00:37:23.570 - 00:37:35.750

And it's like, "Oh, it's like, oh, I finally had somebody that I could go to church with, you know, and go to Bible studies with. That's super cool." You know. And so for the few weeks, that it lasted, it was really nice.

00:37:35.860 - 00:37:52.130

And then and then I went overseas, and met a bunch of other people and was just, you know, completely separated. Because you know, regardless of who you are, or where you are in life and stuff, there's something about traveling very

00:37:52.230 - 00:38:08.240

far away that kind of frees you from everything. You know what I mean? Like you know, you're free from your job, free from your family, free from— even free from your friends circle, you know, which I guess that's why a lot of summer flings happen because there's like no

00:38:08.240 - 00:38:17.200

accountability, unless you like travel with your family or something, you know, but I travel alone all the time. And so I was able to just start from scratch basically.

00:38:17.250 - 00:38:31.280

I think that's what it was, you know, when you go to the other side of the globe, alone, and you just jump into this completely new, different circle of people, they don't know who you are, they don't know your history, where you've come from, you can be

00:38:31.410 - 00:38:49.970

anybody, you know. And I felt so much like myself on that trip for like the first time, you know, like, I was so happy. And I don't really know if I was…

00:38:52.430 - 00:39:03.370

yeah, I guess I was pretty unhappy. But it's complicated because it's not like "Oh, my whole childhood was like traumatic or whatever." I have so many good memories. I just feel like there was always a degree of fakeness to it because it

00:39:03.430 - 00:39:16.460

wasn't like, genuine to who I am. You know? So after that, I came back and conveniently, like, for some reason, like that

00:39:16.460 - 00:39:28.730

boyfriend, he like broke up with me like, right after I got back. And I still haven't asked him why, actually. Mhm. Yeah, he broke up with me and I was like, “that's cool,

00:39:28.730 - 00:39:41.300

'cause I don’t— this was not gonna last anyway,” I didn't say that. But, you know, it was kind of like a relief. I mean, I was bummed out because I still liked him, you know? And I thought that like, I

00:39:41.300 - 00:39:54.140

would come back and like, go back to normal because I, you know, you’re programed so hard to just, “this is the right thing to do.” But once he left, I was like, "Okay, this is me now." Cool. And that was

00:39:54.140 - 00:40:06.360

actually the final point where I was like, "Yeah, I'm done with all that. I'll just be me now. You know, no, no more of this pretending nonsense," you know? Yeah. And that was when I was… How old

00:40:09.910 - 00:40:25.140

was I? Like 26 or no, this is after college. Yeah, that was like 26 or 27. You said you were slightly burned out, before that?

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From school. Yeah. Yeah. Um, so you know, I did the— I went to college for a bachelor's and that's normally a four-year degree. But with all like the, the core curriculum and stuff like I

00:40:43.360 - 00:41:00.970

tested out at a coup- of a couple things, but not very many. And there was just so much coursework, and most of it wasn't even related to my major, and it-it was very frustrating because they kind of felt like I was doing high school all over again, like part of the reason I

00:41:00.970 - 00:41:12.650

went to, 'cause I went to college early, because I knew what I already knew what I wanted to do. I felt like and like, part of the reason of going to college was, "Okay, I'm done with the high school thing.

00:41:13.450 - 00:41:25.040

I'm ready to major in music." And I went to college, and it was high school all over again, because I still had to do math and science and political science and all this stuff that has nothing to do with music. And I was like, "Oh, this is such

00:41:25.040 - 00:41:38.780

a waste." You know, but I decided, you know what, like, as long as I'm here, you know, I'll still be studying with my professor. So every extra semester I do, yes, it'll cost more money, but

00:41:38.780 - 00:41:48.730

at least I'm still studying with my professor. And that is, you know, the most directly related to my major. So I took six years. Technically, it's five and a half.

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So I think after the four years finish, I took a semes— like because I was on scholarship. You know, you have to do certain things to keep your scholarship. So once that ended, I took a semester off school just to like breathe a little bit.

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And then I did another year and a half to finish. To finish everything so like the last half of college was much more music

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major than the first half, like once I finished all of the core requirements. But school is hard. I don't know, it just, it's a lot, just mentally, physically, emotionally.

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So after that, like, my teacher kind of wanted me to go straight into my Master's and I was like, “if I start a Master's now I'm just gonna drop out of school completely, like halfway through because I'm so tired.” Like, I

00:42:47.850 - 00:43:00.960

can't focus, I‘m not motivated, like, I'm just tired, I need a break. You know. And so I took— and he was afraid that I would just kind of never go back to school like I think he thought I was going to like get lazy or whatever.

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And I was like, "No, no, I know myself, I need this time off, but then I'm gonna get really like bored and itchy." Like I'm like, I knew that I was not done being a student, like I was-I was not at the level that I knew that I needed or wanted to be.

00:43:16.640 - 00:43:28.770

So that for me, that wasn't an issue; I just need to rest and recover a little bit, you know, so I knew that, like, there was a time limit to how much I could just chill, you know?

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And that happened, because, you know, actually, I'm not sure if it was two or three years. It was two or three years. Well, I think it was two years, and then I decided I need to get into grad school.

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And of course, when you do that, you don't start so the next year, so wound up being three. But after two years, I was like, “I've got to, I've got to get into grad school, I have to.” And also, I also knew that like it was not going to be in Houston because I was like I've been here my whole life.

00:43:55.890 - 00:44:06.690

I've got to go somewhere else. So I decided to take auditions. And it was like a life or death thing. I was like, “I gotta get out of here, too.” And I wasn't even

00:44:06.690 - 00:44:17.300

expecting that I would because I also stopped taking lessons completely after I graduated. I was just doing gigs, like my technique had gone really bad.

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You know, because I just, I was just trying to make money, you know? So I kind of was starting from scratch to get ready for grad school. But I made it in. So fortunately, I went to Boston the next year.

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And that was awesome. It was wonderful. I needed it. Yeah, that was great. Before we go deeper into your music, musicianship, can you tell us about

00:44:47.820 - 00:44:55.010

how it started? Like how did music— Oh, how did the music thing? Yeah, that was forever. That actually that is one thing that I can

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credit my parents for because my dad's an electrician slash mechanic. My mom's a nurse. You would think like, those are like two of the most practical careers you could possibly have. And he would think that like, there is no potential for art in a family

00:45:08.330 - 00:45:24.310

like that, except they both had always loved music. And they just didn't have the opportunity to, you know, so they had to do the practical thing. But I guess, since they both were

00:45:25.400 - 00:45:40.730

so much better off than, than their families, like than their parents were, you know, that that they could support an artist, I guess. Cuz— so when they noticed that I

00:45:41.090 - 00:45:52.270

seemed interested in music, they totally went for it. And if it weren't for that, I don't even know. You know, so that is one big thing, you know, that I like, blow them all the thanks for you know, because a

00:45:52.870 - 00:46:05.250

lot of my musician friends, including one of my exes, they had to fight their family, like they had to support themselves because their family was against it. They weren't even passive. They were like

00:46:05.320 - 00:46:22.020

against it because they're like, you're never gonna make a living, you know? So apparently, when I was like three, like one of my toys was this little pink keyboard, of course, when I was little, everything had to be pink.

00:46:22.980 - 00:46:36.220

But I remember the keyboard actually, it's so cute. It's this teeny tiny thing with a teeny tiny little keys, you know, but it was-it was a little piano. And it came with this tiny little book, and I had some songs that like, tell you, the notes to

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play and stuff. And apparently, I was like, super into it, you know? And my parents took that as a sign to put me in like real piano lessons. So I started piano when I was four, violin when I was eight.

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And then like everything else when I was 12, and I kind of did everything until high school, and then I cut it back down to one instrument. But yeah, I've like I don't really know myself as anything but a musician.

00:47:05.700 - 00:47:21.780

Again, I have vague memories of me not like doing other stuff because I also, when I was little, I did a little bit of gymnastics and ballet and stuff, I guess my, you know, as a parent, you kind of feel out like, "Oh, what's what is my kid interested in?" You know, this little

00:47:21.830 - 00:47:38.870

those were some of the things, and I really liked the dance and the gymnastics and stuff, but then I think maybe I had a little bit of scoliosis or something, but… Apparently my dad got really freaked out and he just pulled me out of

00:47:38.870 - 00:47:48.850

everything. Like I think they saw some bruises on my back or something like I don't-I don't think I ever got hurt. I don't think anything happened. I think they just were very paranoid about me getting

00:47:48.930 - 00:47:56.390

injured, and as soon as they saw that, like music could be a thing. They're like, "This is way safer." I think that's what happened. Yeah, so Yeah,

00:48:00.550 - 00:48:12.890

it's always been music. I always wish that I could do other stuff. But I think that maybe, like, I'm not that talented, so if I'm going to become good at something, it needs to be one thing and like, I have to put

00:48:14.070 - 00:48:30.130

everything I have into that one thing, you know, like, I feel like I'm still learning how to play the violin. And, you know, I'm 36. If I had kept doing so many things at the same time, I probably would have been terrible at all

00:48:30.690 - 00:48:44.590

of them, you know? Why did you pick the violin among all the instruments you tested out? I like it. I don't know. It could be my teacher. 'cause I miss playing piano.

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If I had time, I would still play piano, but I don't, you know. I've done one gig in my whole entire life on the piano, and I had to practice so much because I hadn't touched the piano in like 15 years.

00:48:58.840 - 00:49:07.550

One of my friends, her violin students had like this exam. And it was like this big official thing where like, the teacher is not allowed to go with the student.

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And so she was like, "Can you accompany them?" She's like, "They're little, they're playing really easy music," you know? I was like, "Yeah, I can do that." And then I got the music, and I was like, "Oh my god, I need to practice.” And I was so nervous.

00:49:20.800 - 00:49:32.420

It was really fun, though. I wish I could do that. But it's just time that I don't have right now. You know, I really missed the piano.

00:49:32.560 - 00:49:46.440

Like, people who are really good at piano like, I just admire them so much. That's so cool. But, um, I think it's because I-I found my voice with the violin.

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You know, it just kind of became a part of me, because I had this crazy teacher in middle school. She’s the teacher that just yells and screams at her students. That's just how she teaches.

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Even like the four year olds, you know, like crying was a staple in that school. And it's very weird because, you know, like, I-I was terrified of her when I met her, obviously. And yes, I had, you know, she made me

00:50:20.620 - 00:50:36.280

cry a couple times, but then after that, like I loved her. She's why it's really hard for me to work with people, now, because I don't yell, but apparently I'm way too blunt. Just like, “Why can’t you just plays this like this?” Because she's very just like,

00:50:37.030 - 00:50:50.720

"Do it or die," you know? I liked it because she made me feel so productive, you know, because I knew that I was gonna show up to my lesson, and she wasn't just gonna, like, pat me on the back and tell me how great I was

00:50:50.720 - 00:50:58.660

like I knew that like if anything needed to be fixed, she would fix it. And that's the attitude I have. And fortunately,

00:50:59.100 - 00:51:13.530

unfortunately, that's not normal. And I wound up working with all these people who never had a teacher like her. And they work mostly with people who are very, like, nice and encouraging. Not that that's a bad thing.

00:51:13.610 - 00:51:24.570

But it's like, you know, but this is a working environment like, “Okay, if you had a concert and I went to your concert, then I will tell you how great you are. And if you ask me specifically for like, criticism, then

00:51:24.620 - 00:51:34.590

I'll give it.” But if we are working on something together, this is a rehearsal, we are trying to produce a good product, then I'm going to be like “This was flat. That was late. We need to fix this, that wasn't

00:51:34.870 - 00:51:48.010

together.” And for me, it's like, like, we're here to work. We're not here to pat each other on the back. We're here to work, but apparently people find that very offensive. And that's very hard for me to

00:51:48.010 - 00:52:03.010

navigate because I'm like, I don't know how to fix this problem that we all know exists without offending you. 'cause to me, that's not an offensive thing. That's just the thing that exists.

00:52:03.210 - 00:52:19.210

You know what I mean? It's so frustrating. So it's like a good and a bad thing because honestly, I wouldn't have it any other way. Because if it weren't for her, I would really suck at the violin. You know, she taught me how to be very objective about my playing, you know,

00:52:19.210 - 00:52:30.320

like, the emotion comes in the interpretation of the music, but not in the work. You know, it's like, oh, if I played it out of tune, I'm not going to be like, "Oh my god, I feel so bad." I'd be like," Oh, that was out of tune.

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Let me fix it." You know, to me, it's not that complicated. So I don't know. But yeah, but so when I was little, I was very shy.

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I was so shy like, this is not the me that started. I don't know what happened. Very self-conscious, shy, quiet, just like I didn't even

00:53:01.670 - 00:53:13.320

want people to look at me like, there were times I do remember actually, when I was little, there were times where if a stranger— not even a stranger, like if just somebody that I wasn't that close to, if they looked at me, I would start crying.

00:53:14.540 - 00:53:28.090

And like when I was, you know, like, at pre-school or somewhere, you know, like, like, if I got hurt, I would hide, because I'd be so embarrassed that I got hurt. I have no idea why that's embarrassing. No idea. But like back then, literally, everything was embarrassing.

00:53:28.830 - 00:53:42.410

I just didn't want people to look at me like, it was bad. I mean, it could be an anxiety thing because my mom, growing up with my mom will give you anxiety. That's a fact. It could be bad.

00:53:42.740 - 00:53:54.940

But when I started taking violin with this teacher, she was my second teacher. My first teacher was our high schooler who was very nice, and that also didn't help the transition to this crazy like hardcore teacher but somehow I made it.

00:53:59.000 - 00:54:12.120

You know, once I got used to working with that teacher and started actually enjoying the work and stuff and becoming more confident. And the other thing too was she also had this— put a bunch of our students in this performing group,

00:54:12.970 - 00:54:25.690

and over Christmas like we performed stuff throughout the year, but Christmas like we would do like 14 performances in two weeks. And this is like elementary to middle schoolers, like more than one performance a

00:54:25.750 - 00:54:46.430

day. Like, she had no patience for anything emotional. You know, like if she said, if she told everybody, "If you're not practicing, you're wasting my time, and you're wasting your

00:54:46.430 - 00:54:57.890

parents’ money." She told everybody that. That's something I kind of wish I would tell my students actually because I have a lot of kids who don't practice. But… And also she, she didn't she didn't had no

00:54:58.220 - 00:55:07.590

room in her heart for stage fright. She didn't care if he had stage fright. She's like "You get out there. You quit. Like, I don't care. Do your job." You know which, again, especially for kids, that's

00:55:07.630 - 00:55:17.380

pretty ruthless. But that that was her, she was already old, there's no changing her. You studied with her; you don't. And I liked it. And so yeah, I had very bad stage fright.

00:55:17.430 - 00:55:31.540

But like, after, like the first round of performances with that group, like, performing a concert was like eating dinner. It was such a nothing, because we did it so much. It was such a common thing, you know, and I love that I got over my

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stage fright, because then I could just go play the violin and not care, you know. And that stuff doesn't last. You know, if you stopped performing for a while, you'll go back to square one. And especially as an adult, when you

00:55:44.460 - 00:56:02.090

think about so many more things, and you're concerned about so many more things, the longer you go without performing, the harder it is to perform, you know, so like stage fright. Unless you have that personality where you actually like feed off people's attention on you, like

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with a spotlight, like there are people like that like, but if you're not one of those people, like performing is a skill just like anything else. And that if you let that skill get out of shape it will.

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And the older you get, oh my god, the worse it is to like get it back. So like, in grad school, the first recital I had to give for my degree, like the last

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time I had played solo was like four years ago for undergrad. You know, I had not performed for anybody for four years. And on top of that I was in a new city with new people who like didn't know me, you know?

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So it's like, I felt this pressure to like, make a good impression or to prove myself. Oh my god. I was a disaster for that, even though like I was already in grad school, like yes, I know how to play, you

00:56:58.150 - 00:57:09.330

know, but I was so terrified, like I almost needed somebody to like kick me out the door onto the stage because I almost couldn't make myself go. I was so terrified. I didn't eat or sleep for like 24

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hours before the, before the recital because I was so freaked out, you know. Like, “Oh, this is something I should be good at already.” But no, that's just something you have to keep up.

00:57:24.410 - 00:57:40.280

But um, yeah, so coming from being so shy and afraid and embarrassed of everything, and then suddenly thrown in with this teacher who doesn't give a crap about any of that, she’s just like “You do it or you don't,” you know, she made me unafraid of anything.

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So after her, I was a completely different person. Just way too outspoken, overbearing, and just, you know, have all the things to say, you know, so that goes to her.

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And the question is, is this the real me, you know? And somehow as a child, something happened that changed that? Or is, was that the real me and then I changed?

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I don't really know. I don't think it matters that much. But yeah, the violin became my voice because so many times I felt like, I was much better with a violin than I was with words. You know, and you never have to

00:58:29.340 - 00:58:42.500

apologize for what you see on stage. Like, you know, you can say a lot of stupid stuff, and you can say something offensive or, you know, you could hurt someone's feelings or even if you say something good, somebody will have a problem with it,

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but you only play the violin, you just play the violin, it doesn't matter, you know. So, I think that's why, and I think when you become a more

00:58:54.620 - 00:59:10.230

mature musician— Well, I feel like there's two different kinds of musicians. There're musicians who are very much their instrument, you know, like this person they are— Oh god. Sorry. A

00:59:12.020 - 00:59:24.130

bug, Like this person basically is a flute, you know, or this person, he just like lives and breathes drums like that's who he is, you know. And then there's other people who they just

00:59:24.130 - 00:59:40.790

become a musician. And yes, this is the one or two instruments that like that's what they play, but really, it's a musician, you know, and I feel like even though I'm like, like I said, like, I can only play the violin now. I can barely play the piano anymore.

00:59:42.450 - 00:59:56.470

I would love to be able to express myself on the piano or the drums or anything. Like I wish I could sing, you know, because I feel like now I have like, enough knowledge and ideas to do so in different

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ways. I just don't have the skills, you know? But it's not it's not like violin the best instrument, like there's so many instruments that are amazing that I just wish I could like clone myself and also master them, you know?

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But I'm happy with the violin. You might be an excellent pianist in another parallel universe. Yeah. How about Boston? We were talking about the amazing Boston experience.

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It's so different up there. I mean, up north in general, just like the north versus the south, like they just… They’re just so much more enlightened than a lot of ways.

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You know, it's like they'll have ads for, ads, like they'll have ads for like, birth control and testing and like mental health testing and stuff like that on the subways, like stuff that's so taboo down here.

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It's like up there, like totally normal, you know? The way that things should be. Yeah, it's just, it's a totally different world. And, but also

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just like being like in a city-city, you know, because Boston is actually pretty small. But it's so dense that you feel like you're in a big city, you know, and it's so much older, which

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makes everything there's so much more interesting. You know. I appreciated about Boston, the fact that you can just— you really cannot stick out there.

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You can't, because there's enough normal people but then there's also people with like, all the colors in their hair, all the piercings, all the tattoos, people who wear anything, you know, it's like, it doesn't matter what

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you look like, nobody will notice you. But not in like not in a “you don't matter.” It's-it's in a, “there is no wrong way to be a person there.” You know what I mean? I really like that. And then

01:02:18.000 - 01:02:30.270

being… Well, a lot of Boston is music school area. That's the other thing that's like, oh, if you're here, near this school then you'll see the musicians. No, there's so many music schools that it's like in a lot of

01:02:30.300 - 01:02:44.560

Boston, there's just people your age, carrying an instrument around. So it almost feels like you're at school, or like at a music festival, all the time, whether you're in class or not, you know, like, you'll

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just be going down the street and you're still surrounded by music students everywhere. It's so cool. And then also there is music everywhere. I mean, I guess the weather kind of helps, but really, the

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culture, you know, just inside and outside, there's somebody making music somewhere, you know, so they'll be out in the park making music on the street corner and then if it's like too cold, then there'll be in their apartment but with all the windows open, you know, like it's just

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everywhere. It's everywhere. I miss that. Like I could I could go see like Erhu players all the time. There were a couple that were always at the park, and I loved that because you could just go there

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and watch them you know, of course, like fun. I saw hurdy gurdy player. That was cool. That guy was insane. But-but I got to see a hurdy gurdy in action up close.

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That was really cool. Um, the park is gorgeous. Oh my god. So there's two parts there's one… I forgot which is

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which, there's the Boston Common, and then like a Boston Park, I guess. And one is like it's like an Alice in Wonderland. Like they have all these gard— like very nice gardens and stuff and all

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the bushes are like trimmed into these fancy shapes and stuff. And then there's like this lake that has these two swans in it, and it's super cool. They have all these you know really pretty flowers.

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And then there's the bigger park where people just kind of like roam around and stuff, and in the winter they'll have an ice rink. And then when you go across the park all the way down towards downtown, and you go off to the corner, then you have Chinatown.

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That Chinatown is so cool. Sounds like they’re fighting. Um their Chinatown is how I wish Chinatown was here because it's just Well, not just, no

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you feel like you're in China there 'cause the one here it's basically just strip malls. You know what I mean? It's like the same stupid buildings with the divisions, and they just rent out a piece of the building and they all look the same, but over there, it's like, all these little

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buildings, they have the cool roofs and stuff, you know, like everything's in Chinese, you know, like and also, like, it's just like swarms of everything, swarms of people and bikes and the stands on the street and everything, like you're just so deeply immersed in it, you know, it's

01:05:21.640 - 01:05:35.520

so fun. I miss it. And there's this one Chinese bakery that was my favorite, I would always get those bun curds? They're like these brown pastries

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covered in, in, in sesame seeds. And then the inside is the red bean paste. And they make those every day. Oh my god, so good.

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But you go there and, like you have to be prepared. There's no line. They don't speak English. And it's cash only. Like you have to go in there ready to like point and yell and

01:05:55.430 - 01:06:09.620

throw your money up at them. Such an experience. Yeah, I just, oh, I love it. I just I feel like it's just you feel like you're constantly like slipping in and

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out of these different dimensions of reality, you know. And the other cool thing too was, we didn't have like, “Oh, this is the Conservatory campus.” I'm sure there are schools like that. But BoCo is not

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one of them. BoCo, they have like one main building, which was still kind of attached to all these other buildings because it was so old. But then they basically rented out all these other spaces because as they grew, there wasn't any space for them to grow in, so they just take whatever spaces

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available. So like you'd literally like go down the street. Go down in between, like in between the Thai restaurant and the pizza place. There's a little door in between and you go back in there, and you

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swipe your card and you go up these stairs and suddenly open the dance studio that like overlooks the street, or you go down into the basement that's under everything. Like it's completely mixed into the city. And that's I love is like, because like here like at U of H and

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especially here at Rice, like you kind of just live in this bubble that is the campus it's like all Rice or all U of H. And over there you're in Boston.

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You're just in Boston the whole time and you're only really at school when you really are actually like taking a class or something and I loved how mixed into the city it was. It was so much more interesting to me on, I don't know, totally

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different life. And then also being able to hop on and off the buses and the trains and stuff just “Bloop” you know. 'cause driving, I did drive in Boston, it's fun when there's no traffic, which is never. It was nice to have a car though because that's how you get gigs.

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Because all the gigs are like an hour away with whatever orchestra you know, so if you have a car, they call you first because then you also have to—well, you don't have to but then everybody asks you for a ride because a lot of people don't have

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cars. I got very lucky because my apartments had parking right by them. And I would just leave the car there the whole time until I had a gig, and then I would use it. But the whole rest of the time I just

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walked or took the train. And, oh I miss it. I mean, I've visited twice since then, and I graduated in 2013. So I need to go back, but of course, it'll be a

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while now. But um, yeah, I miss it. I miss that place. It's— oh, and there by the the Charles River, the Charles River, so yeah, Boston and Cambridge, and the big bridge, and the bridge is like really long, but when the weather's nice,

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they have all these like different sailboats and stuff. It's gorgeous. There's always boats going by, on the river. So nice. Yeah, and Cambridge is another alternate universe because it's different.

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I feel like Cambridge is kind of… kind of sort of like how the Heights and Montrose used to be a long time ago. Very different. I would usually go up there because there's a really nice ice cream shop.

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Yeah, but also, so when I went to Boston, I didn't go for a Master's, I got a graduate performance diploma. And that's basically a Master's but without any classes, like literally just performance and that was like, fairytale land for me, to not have to

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write papers or research or anything, to literally just learn music, and train with music and get coaching and lessons and just play music all the time. The orchestra was really good, too. Oh, my God, the level of— they're so good.

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Yeah, like that's, I mean, I had to get a student loan. But when once that was done, it's like, “Oh, I only have to care about making music.” You know, and I knew it was temporary. That one I just did the two years.

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But it was really nice. It was really nice. I miss it. Like the only times in my life where like that were basically in middle school, where, since I was homeschooled, for me, real school

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was music school. And then the schoolwork was just something I did on the side. So I could really focus on taking all the lessons I wanted. And then you know, the few times that I went to a summer festival

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you know, that, you obviously do that to just play music all day for two to four weeks. And then grad school. Those were the only times that my life were like that.

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It was wonderful. 'cause I feel like that's the kind of life that you would only get if you were like, you became like a famous musician, where you really do make your living off of nothing but performing.

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And there's not room for many, very many of those people, you know. So those are really nice times. Hopefully, there'll be more. I don't mind if they're temporary

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as long as they keep happening. Yeah. So jumping back to, like, the current, I was thinking maybe we can focus on a few questions on the COVID-19 pandemic.

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Oh, man. Yeah. So how has it impacted your life? I mean, compared to a lot of people, not that much, yet. I mean, in terms of what it looks like, yeah, because on top of me, you know,

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just performing all the time, even when I'm not I, I'm not the kind of person that likes to stay at home, like I'm never at home. I hate being at home. Like, I have this like cool off, but as soon as 24 hours goes by and

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I haven't left the house, I really get into bad shape, just mentally and emotionally. Like I don't have any motivation, I feel lost. I just don't like

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being at home, unless I have people over, I guess, but I just like– like for me personally, the way my brain is wired, I have to leave the house to like be functional. So of course when that happens you

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know, that sucked. Just like I just had to get used to being at home all the time is very, and it wrecked me because like, like, physically, like, my sleep schedule was a mess because it's like the whole day

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would go by but my brain would, would not think that a day had happened because I didn't go anywhere. And so it would be nighttime but my brain would still think like “when's the day happening” so I wouldn’t sleep.

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You know, it was a mess. It was such a mess. But on top of that, you know, because I feel like, like, here's the thing that I think that most people, most people have the same frustrations is, if we had only had a stupid

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system in place for this situation, then it wouldn't really be that traumatic, right? It'd be like, "Oh, I guess I work from home now." "Oh, I guess I'm on

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unemployment now,” except nothing worked. And everybody was scrambling and panicking, you know, and so, um, so, instead of being like, "Oh, I guess I'll just exercise more or do my own

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projects." or whatever the first couple weeks, what did I do? I started a fundraiser because the freelancers couldn't even apply for unemployment. Like, we couldn't even do that.

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There was no system in place. Like, they were like, the paperwork was not compatible. And even after they got it working, it's still really dumb.

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Like, I'll explain that in a minute. But basically like, like, the government has no clue what to do with freelancers, other than tax-tax the crap out of them every year, that's all they know. But other than

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that, they have no idea like, like, everything on the news, like the only thing people know is freelancing is Uber. Uber is the only thing like, “oh, freelancing, you mean like Uber?” But even Uber, I think is way easier to deal with because they

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have all the paperwork, they have all the taxes figured out, like, everything's like, everything's on paper, everything's figured out, but for those of us who just were self-employed, and we create all of

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our own gigs, like there is no standard anything, you know, like not even the pay is standard, you know, like people who they play for conferences or they play for weddings, you know, or they- or they put on actual concerts like, each one of those is its

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own separate project that the person made themselves at that time. Everything is homemade, if you know what I mean. There's no there's no system for that. No paperwork, they just, you know, just on

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the taxes, we just say, “I made this much this year” and that’s it, you know. Yeah, so a lot of people were screwed, for a long time. I don't think I got started getting unemployment until like, one or two

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months later. So I started a fundraiser just to hold over the people who are like, in really bad shape. Like, like I was okay, because, 'cause I was staying with my parents.

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And… yeah, I mean, like, I was fine, you know. But a lot of people who like still had rent to pay because— also like the whole rent moratorium thing, like hardly happens. They still had bills, they still had rent, they still had

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to eat somehow, you know, all of their gigs were canceled, and they were never going to get paid for those gigs. That's the other thing. You know, it's like… There's no advance payment?

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With freelancing, we have no benefits and no safety net. So if a gig gets cancelled, that's it. You don't get any payment for that, like unless you got those people to sign a

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contract, and they explicitly agreed to pay you no matter what, you don't get paid for that. And if you're just texting a bride that you're gonna play at their wedding, and their wedding is canceled, that's not that's not

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going to happen. And also people like that, like that bride's going to be fighting with her venue to get out of paying for a venue that she's not going to use. It’s a huge mess. You know?

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So yeah, I did the fundraiser just because I was like, because we had nothing, you know, and I was so relieved when, when the bigger organizations finally got their fundraisers going, and then more

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people could apply for that. So like the Houston Arts Alliance, they launched their fundraiser in April, and so everybody in Houston could apply for that, and I actually got money from them too. But

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I was like, not sleeping until then. Because I was not prepared to handle a bunch of strangers’ like sensitive financial information, and you know, 'cause I was like, I'm gonna have to like verify people's income and like, get proof that they like lost work and like, I

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was never planning on handling that, you know, like, I feel like that's not my business. But fortunately, I didn't have to do it very much. And then the other thing I did, I like did not sleep for like three days doing this.

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I created a form. Like we, like literally people did not even have like a form to fill out to deal with this. So I created a form that would serve as proof of loss of income.

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Because again, for like, the weddings and the parties and the concerts and stuff, you know, it's like, basically, what most people have is a mess of emails and texts stuff, you know, so I'm like, “Okay, well fill out this form.

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And if you can get the other person to sign it, this is proof that this gig was supposed to happen and it didn't. And you can use that to apply for grants or assistance or whatever.” And that took a long time because-because

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I was like, "Okay, if people were going to use this, like, if I'm gonna send this out into the wild, and like, everybody's gonna use it, it needs to be well done." So I had a lot of people look at it, and I redid it like three

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times and then I finally sent it out. So that like, I don't think I had ever worked so hard, so fast, so intensely. During those two weeks,

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like, like, like, I don't remember ever working like that ever, like maybe at some points when I was in school, I worked like that. I don't remember being that much in overdrive as I was during

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those two weeks because it just felt so urgent. You know, because literally, the world fell apart. And nobody has anything for anyone. Like the people with normal jobs, they'll be fine.

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You know, because everybody knows how that stuff works. But the rest of us, there was nothing, and people and a lot of freelancers since we've never dealt with this before, they didn't even know how to—

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like how to ask for help, because there was no form to fill out. There was no application that existed to say like, "Hey, I lost all this stuff," you know? And there's still like, there's still stuff that I lost that I'm

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not-not getting back, you know? Because-because then there's the whole like, "Oh, was it cancelled? Or was it just postponed?" You know, and I'm like, "Come on, let's be real." This is canceled, life is canceled,

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everything's canceled. I had every— like, I had so much, so many big plans this year. All nothing, all over again. And a lot

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of people are in the same boat. They're like, “Man, I was gonna do this this year. I was gonna do that this year.” And it all got canceled. So you know, but again, like I'm not like-I'm

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not worried about becoming homeless because I'm just squatting at my parents’ place and yeah, and then once the unemployment kicked in, since I don't go anywhere anymore, I'm not I'm like, I'm hardly spending

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money anymore. So, ironically, this is the first time in my life that I've actually saved money. I've never saved money in my life because I'm just paycheck to paycheck. I barely make it paycheck to paycheck. That's been my whole life.

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But now that I like, don't go anywhere, don't do anything, it's like, "Oh, I can actually save this money now." Yeah, so I feel very, very lucky. 'cause I have friends who are, especially the international students, you know, like, I have a friend who was getting ready

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to get kicked out of the country because they were still figuring out that whole mess. So and there's people I know who actually might not come back, or they might leave because of all this, you know. So and that's, that's just such a mess.

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So at least I can like kind of just hang out here until something changes, you know, like, really the only really, really bad thing that ever happened to me this year was my dog dying. Like, out of all the

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crazy crap that's been happening during this time, the only thing that I really cared about was my dog. He just suddenly got really, really sick. And then I had to put him down. And that's like, that's

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probably the worst thing I've had to do in my whole entire life. I hope that I never have to do that ever again. Like, I was hoping so much that he would just like die in his sleep, you know, because, like, for

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the rest of my life, I will question if that was the right decision. Even though he was really sick, you know? He, I mean, he's a dog. He doesn't understand what's going on, you know, so like, he didn't

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want to go, but I was like, yeah, but he kept having seizures and like, what am I gonna do? You know? So that's the only thing that really messed me up. I mean, on the bright side, because of the pandemic, I did have all the time

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to just focus on him. So that was actually a good thing. You know, because if the pandemic didn't happen, I would have just quit all my work to do that, you know, so I couldn't really leave home.

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You know, so I got to take care of my dog. But all the other stuff. Yeah, it sucks. But at the same time, like, I haven't stopped working. I mean, I'm not really making money the way I used to, but I'm still planning

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stuff. I'm still figuring stuff out. It's fine. And I actually have two things coming up. I mean, one is just a project, a video project that somebody is doing, I’m participating in it.

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And the other one is an actual gig. I'm doing a live stream. So there's that, you know? Yeah. Yeah. So I mean, I'll be fine.

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Thank you for the photoshoot, photo, or the headshots that you sent us for community mask project. Yeah, you're wearing a Black Lives Matter mask. Yeah. It's dirty; I would have worn it today.

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I never wash it. Can you talk a little bit about that, like, what Black Lives Matter mean to you? Yeah. It's just, I guess my take is Black Lives Matter is an

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unfortunate thing that is necessary to say, because of the way everything's been established here, you know? Like, the way everything's

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been for everything in this country is just been set up… I mean, like, the foundations of this country is, like, this country was built on slavery, you know, so just, so just saying, "Oh, slavery is illegal

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now,” that doesn't really fix anything. Really. You know, because that didn't change the way anything was set up. All that did was okay, slaves are free now.

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But yeah, just, I don't even know where to begin. You know and of course, like, I'm still learning 'cause also like, I'm not black.

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So, I will always be learning about that, but just from the people that I talk to, people that I know, and reading the news is just and also just like reading real history, because

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like a lot of the history that's been taught in schools is completely fake. You know, just for the sake of patriotism, like, "Oh, Americans have always been glorious and good and fighting for, you know, humanity or whatever." It's like, “Yeah, but yeah, remember when,…?” you know,

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like, we haven't really fixed that yet. You know, like just, I actually just recently learned that the whole concept of a police force, that came from slavery. It had nothing to do with safety for all.

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Like they literally, they literally started that, to police the black people when they weren't slaves anymore because they didn't trust them. And they also still wanted to

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keep their thumb on them somehow. Actually, I think this was when, I don't think it was when slavery was completely ended yet, I think it was when it was kind of like some places did and some places didn't, they have these weird

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rules, you know? But yeah, like the police force existed so that if a slave ran away, and if they caught him before he like made it across the state line or something, then they had to take them back. Like it's really messed up, you know, but like,

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kind of like how I was very comfortable in the church environment when I was young, because I was kind of playing the part and just kind of soaking everything up, that's like a lot of people in this country who are not black, they're very okay with the

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way things are because obviously, they didn't have to deal with any of that. And they don't want to be bothered by the fact that, "Oh, maybe your history teacher was wrong." Because that stuff is very disturbing, and people don't want to be disturbed when they're comfortable.

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You know, and that's why it's so difficult and that's why I get so stressed out. You know, because people just, they're still ready to fight. Like they don't even want to learn.

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I don't know. I've always been like obsessed with truth, even if it's like, gonna destroy everything that I thought was good. You know, because as far as I'm concerned, if whatever is good is not real, it's not good because it's not real.

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And but a lot of people do not feel the same way. The problem that everybody's fighting against. Like I-I wish that I could say that this country was a better place, but it's

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not. It's really not. You know, and again, I know that I am very privileged because I have a white father and a white name. And I'm not black, even if I am mixed race, you know.

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I mean, like, being mixed race has its own a whole other bag of issues, but they're nothing compared to basically what came out of slavery. You know, like that stuff I can deal

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with fine. Am I more likely to go to jail for something? I don't know, actually. But yeah, it's, it's a, it's a very big problem, and honestly, I have no idea if or how it can be solved.

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You know, I just know that like, I'm not gonna just go along with, “It’s been fine the way things are,” I know it’s not. Yeah, I can't talk about that at home because like I said, my mom

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was a very white mentality, even though she's not. They look at all this stuff and they get very upset by it because they think that we're just being destructive and whatever.

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And I'm like, I mean, “do you realize how long they've been trying to get your attention peacefully? And they didn't.” So I mean, like, I'm-I don't wear that mask at home,

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for that reason. I can't have those conversations at home, like my parents are just too are gone. So I just kind of do what I can and with the people that I can. What kind of, what's the race

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people would mostly perceive you as? It is all over the place. I mean, I get a lot of Mexican but I think it's because we're in Texas. But I've gotten everything– let's

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see. Mexican, Spanish, Middle Eastern, Egyptian, Japanese, Indonesian, like literally anything. Have you felt like

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you've been treated with racial prejudice or stereotypes or discrimination in, at any point? Probably only like, at that church, you know, like we were, we were already talked about with not

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fitting in 100% or conditionally fitting in. That's what it is, is like, they'll treat you like one of, like one of their own as long as you do all the things that you're supposed to do, you know, very conditional. But once I

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left the church, like I've always been in a very diverse pool of people. So that's never been an issue. That's actually one of the things I love about music school, you know, you get, it’s like, at least half of the music students came from the other side

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of the globe to do this, you know? So, yeah, I've always had been around people from everywhere. So that’s pretty equalizing. I guess, very fun.

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I guess just the last question to conclude, how would you describe yourself or be remembered as? Well, like how do I want to be remembered? Oh man. Um… I'm trying to figure

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out a good way to-to explain it. So I’m not— 'cause to me think it's more important

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that people… want what I want, more than they remember me, specifically, you know. Like I want to fight racism and prejudice

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and anti-anything, like I basically like I just want people to stop attacking each other for being who they are, you know, like, so if somehow they can

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like look at my life and see that, and pick up that same fight after I'm gone, I don't even care if they remember my name. You know, like I'd rather just that happen, like I would like to help perpetuate that and I'm sure that a lot of

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people feel the same way, you know, is like the whole point is we just we need to be more collective and not so much like, awesome them or me and them, you know, like, we just need to care about people more.

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That's the problem. People don't care about other people because whether it's racism, or this pandemic, you know, even without the race issue, it's very clear people don't give a crap about anyone. And it's not even like, we're not even asking people to, like, make a

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sacrifice or go to war or move. Like even just wearing a damn mask, like, we gotta be a child and make a huge deal about it, just because they would rather be perfectly comfortable than even give a thought to some— to another human

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being that might be at risk. That kills me. I hate it. You know? So, yeah, I don’t know if that's a good

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answer. Yeah, that was a really inspiring answer. I guess that’s a selfless answer, too. Thank you so much, Zelda. Thank you!